11-Self-forgiveness
IN THIS LESSON
Self-forgiveness
What have you done or witnessed that sticks with you? Remember, the definition of moral distress is taking or witnessing an action that violates your values.
You did value definition in a previous lesson.
What have you done or witnessed that has violated, or continues to violate, your personal values-ideals that you hold close?
It’s time to forgive yourself.
Assignment:
In a journal or in a digital space, write out your moral distress following this format:
“I am sorry that I .”
“I wish had never happened.”
You might need to repeat this several times.
For example:
“I am sorry I had to fire that coworker.”
“I am sorry I didn’t report that physician.”
“I wish that poor patient outcome had never happened.”
“I wish I never had to execute those budget cuts.”
Write yours now, then come back to this page.
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These statements reveal your values.
“I am sorry I had to fire that coworker,” reveals that you value things like stability and helping others.
“I wish that poor patient outcome had never happened,” reveals that you care about the wellbeing of patients.
Now, close your eyes and say, “I forgive myself for ,” listing out the items from the previous list.
Self-forgiveness
Affirms your values (it doesn’t excuse the situation)
Affirms your value (you’re a worthwhile person who can be forgiven of past actions or inactions)